The Case for Marriage

Obviously enough, I am in favour of same-sex marriage, and I think Mr. Bush is a disgusting dummkopf hater. Actually I thought that about him even before the minority of votes elected him to presidency, but that's not the point.

Now, the first actual interesting article against same-sex marriage that I read was on Free Inquiry magazine. At first I didn't read it, because the caption said that "legalizing same-sex marriage is not a good idea", and that sentence alone was already making me anygry. But (because everything on FI is a good read anyway) I ended up reading the article, which is called Mixed Blessings by Tom Flynn and it's available online too. Basically it says that SSM is a bad idea because it further ignores the plight for rights of cohabiting couples, be them straight or gay, and it's a pretty good article.. but I didn't think much of it.



Lately I've also been hearing the voice of dissent on the SSM issue from the GLBTQ community itself, and the reason behind it is the same given by Tom Flynn on the last issue of FI. Now, as there is a moronic fuckwit in the US trying to change the constitution to ban SSM, frankly, it's really not a good idea to be picky and to say you don't want some rights for yourself. Regardless of the opinions of a few individuals, there are same-sex couples out there who want to get married. What will the community gain by saying they should not have that right, the right that they would have if they were straight?

And then there is this whole deal with cohabiting couples rights, which I just can't bring myself to agree with. I personally would not want just any guy I'm living with to have the same legal status as my husband. I would have never gotten into a cohabiting situation if it meant that the relationship would be a "de facto" marriage! The person I'm sharing my life with right now may or may not be the person I will grow old with, and when I know for sure then I'll make the decision to get married. I wouldn't want all my posessions to go to just anyone I was living with at the time after I die. Is it that hard to understand? If you want the same rights as a married couple, why not get married? What's so horrible about marriage anyway? There are good things and bad things that come with being married, but if you can't deal with the bad part of it, don't throw your problems on the rest of us.

I see marriage as a lifetime union between two people who love each other. Call me old-fashioned, but I respect that idea very much. Don't make a mockery out of love! Just don't make me wear one of those stupid white dresses....